Break Up with Your Girlfriend Nicely

Continuation of How to Break up a relationship with your girlfriend from previous page.

The meeting should be kept simple and straight forward, not going into too many details. She must be given a just explanation but that does not mean that he should give her all the details about how he arrived at the final decision because this will make matters more complicated and blur the decision. He must give honest reasons which are obvious to both. He must tell her very clearly as to the type of person she really is and how her attitude has harmed their relationship.

Explaining the partner about how he came to take the decision of parting ways is the toughest part of breaking up because in between the lines she may think that her boyfriend is insulting her. Therefore, it is better that the meeting be kept brief and up to the point. He must show regret about the split up and let her know that it was a difficult decision for him to take but it is final.

During the meeting, he should allow the girl to talk her mind to him and respond to his decision. She may surprise him by saying that the relationship really needed to be ended or on the other hand she may ask for another chance where she promises to change herself; this should not deter the boy to heed her request because if the break up is called off and the relationship continued, she may behave herself for a couple of months and then begin to misbehave all over again. The decision to part will once again be considered but much time is wasted creating a more difficult situation than what it was at the first time.

The boy should be cordial at the meeting. It is always good that they part decently and peacefully and not after a big quarrel or in anger since the two may still bump into each other and hatred towards one another will affect the new relationship when the boy gets a bad name.

The decision for the break up should be final and put into action in one meeting only. It is not good to drag the issue; such attitude is a waste of time. She may cry and argue it out but the boy should not change his mind and stick to the decision firmly.

After the meeting is over, he must not make any attempts to call her up or send messages through any means. If he calls her up after the break up, the girl is likely to get the wrong signals and may think that the relationship is still continuing. All communication should be totally cut off. To prevent her from calling him up, he should change his phone number, change his email addresses and the passwords which she knows about. He should give her back all that he has of hers and take back all that she has of his.

After the break up, the boy himself will feel the emptiness within himself but he must not go back to the girl and ask her forgiveness to restart the relationship afresh. He must know that many around the world are going through the same phase as him. Therefore, it is important that the boy makes arrangements to divert his mind. He can go to events and join sports or go for a picnic with his friends and family members; he can even read a book or busy himself with further studies or some kind of job.

If he is planning to start a fresh new relationship, he should first calm down till he begins to think properly, no longer disturbed by the thoughts of the split-up because calling off a relationship is not easy as it involves joining up of two minds with strong emotions involved. All emotional connections should be totally cut off. This may take a long time even up to one year or so. He will be the wiser in choosing the next girlfriend and keeping up the relationship. The mistakes which he may have made in the first relationship he will be careful not to make in his next relationship. It is likely, therefore, that his new relationship will be a far better one than the previous.