confused

hello
i m really confused abt d relation dat m goin through wid.me n my bf we loved eachother so much bt we lack understandin we dnt understand eachother which results to fights many times.now we r in a relationship bt we dnt feel dat we r connected i knw he loves me n even i do bt we really lack something...we dnt understand eachother's wants i want us to be jus frens bt he doesnt let us...i cant stay widout him so does he pls suggest me wat do do so dat i can fix dis problem n start a healthy relation again