How to make him come to me?

12 years ago

Well i was going with a boy , he used to cheat on me, and i forgave him because i thought he will change. But he didn't . At our school party, he told me he didn't want to come , i said i will come and he said he will come for me, when he came he didn't let me know, till i called him and he joined me. He was with me but his mind was far. He was texting . He told he won't stay with me longime because someone is waiting for him at home. I said ok. he wasn't going. Then he told me he's going to call a guy friend to come join us. I said he can, then he said he is coming right now. I waited for him like 20mins he wasn"t coming. A friend of mine saw me and asked why i was all alone , i explained and she said she just saw him with a girl. I was sad but i've seemed fine. Then we decided to go walk and we found out they were going to take a drink. He called me asking me to come with that other girl, i said i'm good. Then he came to me and i told him it was over with out explanation. He stayed there like 5 mins, he didn't move and he was calling me and i didn't answer. Then he went join the other girl and his friends. And after it , he didn't call me. This happened yesterday and till now he didn't call me. I'm wondering if i should call him asking him why he was calling me or i should wait and see? It's not his first time to hurt me even thought he tells me he really loves and care about me. I'm so confused right now. At a party too, he didn't pay attention to me. He went to take pictures with that same girl and let me there... I really love him even thought i don't show him alot it..I'm so sad..I need help Please

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  • pav
    12 years ago

    "Back together" always sounds good..... i guess he is part of you... love or fights...he's gona be their in ur heart! :)

  • 12 years ago

    Mina,

    I have to tell u Pav and the other responses give you the best advice keep your distance until he matures more are he will keep playing u for a yoyo I know it is hard but you must get stronger and I am sure he is still seeing the other girl still. I know it is not easy for you to stop your feelings and act as if everything is well u just have to trust that if it is meant to be then it will work out believe in fate and trust yourself to make the right decision not the spare of the moment thing but a long thought out moment given the pros and cons please. Good luck to u I wish u the beast and don't go through life beging a doormate you are better then that.

  • 12 years ago

    Thanks alot y'all. I didnt really listen to y'all and i gave him a second chance.. But it was my biggest mistake..I gave him a chance and he saying he wants me for life, saying that me and him it's for life. saying him and that other girl , he doesnt want her for life , i asked him why he still with her then? he didnt give me an answer. Just 3days after, he went to a club and promised he'll call me and didnt call, then i had to call him the morning asking why he didnt call me, he said he came home at 3.30am thats why he didnt call me, i said at least he could of message me. he said he had things to do. Then after he message me saying i'm so possessive, i want to control all he does and that he cant take this situation no more. then i asked him what he wants to do. he told me he is giving us a break for a time for thinking about our feelings. I said my intention wasnt to control him ,and i knwo what i feel for him and he's the one that need this time and when he will be sure of him, he

  • 12 years ago

    .. he can tell me. And till now he didnt reply me. I really aint hoping he will be back with me. I swear i'm so hurt to give him a second chance..i'm so hurt ... I dunno what to do, everything is empty without him in my life..Im so scared if he doesnt come back again..And when i think its cause of her he is doing all that.. She doesnt have prettier face than me, just because i'm a lil bit fat and she's thin..i guess its the reason why..i'm so hurt

  • I'm depressing, what should i do now? :'( i'm crying out...

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Mina.... you said..."I didnt really listen to y'all and i gave him a second chance.. " I completely agree you have every right to take ur own decision or to listen what these people in here are trying to advice you...!

    As i see, the " Ball was in your court before but now its in his court" Few days ago you were the one to had every chance to loose him or stay with him ...and he was in the receiving end. But now its exactly opposite! I understand you love n care for him ...But,the fear of insecurity you have,is actually killing/disturbing your relationship..... Everything will be clear when u feel secure in ur love....if u never feel secure then, its good to stay single and happy for some days.

  • 12 years ago

    Pav, you're right. I really don't care that much no more, as you said, i focus more on my family and my friends and i have fun so i forget him. It's going to 4days we don't talk. But what i'm scared of is , if after that break, he comes and tells me he doesn't want me no more... It'll hurt me because it'll be like a waste of my time..After all i said, do you think he will come back?

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    If u guys loveed each other and being going out for long time... Than YES he will bounce back at you like a ball after a hitting a wall!!!

    Sure, he will be back in ur arms soon after the passing cloud (the girl). Sometimes it takes time to get sense in the head to realize how much one can love! However, if u were over possessive abt him in the past, u must change that. Till then u concentrate on ur career n family as u said.
    Let ur love do the magic ...... sit back n RELAX ...Mina :) Be confident!

  • 12 years ago

    Well you're really right Pav, but it'll surprise me if he comes back even though he went on my facebook and clicked ' I like ' on my of 6 my pics 2 days ago, im still scared... And idk , seems like him and that other girl having fun (its the feeling i have)...It really hurt me , i try not to care but wow it's over my strengh... But him and me has been together like 3 months now, Pav , i really need to know if he will come back to your mind... Because it's like a waste of my time if ever he doesn't...

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Mina... Be confident

    R u prepared to take him back? even if he breaks up with that girl? He will surely come back but are u sure to take him back?

    Later don't regret that you had a door open to fly free and had ever chance to enjoy your life.. n.. chance to fall in love again with someone better than him.....Mina.... Think about it .... Tc

  • 12 years ago

    You're right..Honestly if he comes back, i'm not ready to take him back like 50%...But if ever my feeling changes, i'll take him back with a condition. If he doesn't leave that other girl, him and me will be over without any other chances..If he doesn't accept, it'll be a new chance for me to re-do my life with someone better. If ever he doesn't come , well i'll be really hurt but it'll be a new chance for me again..
    Today , he called me and I didn’t answer , then he said to his bestie , he never called me, his bestie asked me to question him about it, I did and he didn’t answer me and then I explained his bestie, his bestie told me he said he doesn’t wanna reply me, I told his bestie he aint rly obly to do it, and 1min later he messages me saying ‘ hello, how u doin’ I was like ‘ im gud u?’ he said “ yea im fine ‘ I said “ ok” and that’s all…

  • 12 years ago

    Mina, i think u shud give it a break..u are rele insecure on your feelings... just let him go for good, ignore his feelings that pop up in ur mind...try going for music classes, maybe try the flute :) or try painting... just try to get involved in different things...be with your family.
    your parents raised u till this time and they neva made u this sad, then y waste ur life for a guy who cant evn keep u as happy as your parents..he doesnt deserve u... MOVE ON GAL....and see the change..there's a beautiful world waiting outside for u.... tc :)

  • 12 years ago

    we are just frnds but i think i love her i dont know really i love her or not but everytime she comes in front of me i want to talk to her

  • 12 years ago

    dang girl im so srry!! my boy friend is really sweet so my advice is try to find some one else some one like my boy friend my bf is perfect so move on if u cant text him and ask him to talk... talk to him bout how u luv him and ask him to give u another chance but u would like him to change for u... I WISH U ALL LUCK POSSIBLE

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Hey Mina... how is it going for you? I hope u are getting on with your life yeah?! Good luck ..mate. Cheers!

" When I am with you, the only place I wanna be is, Closer. "

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