How to breakup with your Girlfriend
Relationships of all types sour after some time, some temporarily and some permanently. When it is the latter, one has to know for sure that s/he cannot continue with it any longer. A relationship is meant to bring happiness to each of the partners and should help to improve and buildup each other’s lives. The time comes, though, when the boy or the girl has to look squarely into the reality of the changes that have lately sprung up in his/her relationship, creating a rift between the two.
The boy should realize that it is time to quit the companionship of his girlfriend when he finds her repeatedly rude with poor, indecent communication. She is no longer the cute person he met at the very first who gives him importance in everything. He may begin to find her phone calls curt and her behavior annoying whenever they meet. He may find her disrespecting him when the two are alone or even in front of her friends; she invariably wants him to know that she is always right in all matters.
All such improper attitudes from the girl should send a clear signal to the boy that the relationship is actually over though not worded yet. He should take the decision to call off their relationship with a calm and composed mind, not in anger or as an act of revenge on the girl. To do this, he needs some time to be alone with himself and so he must take one or more weeks off from seeing his girlfriend. Away from her and from the hustle and bustle of life, he can take the decision to break off without clouded judgment or reasoning. One thing he should never ever do is to begin a new relationship before he ends the previous one.
Handling a break up is not easy; it does tax the mind and involve the emotions. It is better for the boy not to hang on with the relationship, thinking that good times will come back someday. It is advisable that he break off with his girlfriend as soon as possible. At this juncture, he should make up his mind and make a firm decision whether he wants to break up with her or not. Once he decides in the affirmative, he should now plan out how he will break the news to her.
The best and the most decent way to tell the girlfriend about the break up is to tell her personally. Many suggestions are there from people, in books and on the internet that a relationship can be called off by a message or a greeting card through the electronic devices. This is a cowardly act and, therefore should be avoided. As a matter of fact, he has to meet her anyway even if he sends her the message earlier and a message sent electronically to her beforehand will only worsen their meeting. Even though he may not feel very brave about it, he must meet her in person.
The location for the final meeting should be in a partially crowded place where he can tell her all that he wants to with others around because in a very private place, after the girl hears about the break up, may put the blame on the boy of manhandling her or any such false charge. A park is an appropriate location for such a meeting where the two get the privacy they need amidst a crowd which has no intentions to intrude in their matter. On the other hand, a restaurant may not be a good choice of meeting because in case the girl creates a scene, it may go against the boy and his reputation. When meeting her, he should be decently dressed not shabbily and/or with unkempt hair. He should ensure that he keeps a serious face. He should not smile or touch her as he did before. Such gestures send wrong signals to the girl who may conclude that all is not over yet. When he tells of his decision to her, he should be absolutely clear in his wording and not beat around the bush as expressing one self vaguely about such an important issue will only complicate matters and prolong the process of breaking up. When she hears the news, she may get emotional and get the boy’s compassion stirred up for her; he should decide firmly about this before the meeting not to give in to her emotions.
A very sound advice for the boy is to tell the girl first about the break up, not to other friends or family members. If she hears from any other source before she hears from the boy, she is going to flare up and make the break up difficult.
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