should I go against my beliefs and go for something not the norm or ?

12 years ago

Like others who have posted I find myself in love with two man a single man who I have had a long relationship with and a man I have never been with and no I can't have. Now the single men is wonderful yet doesn't have it all together. The other man I have loved for years but don't want a relationship where I would be the doormate or the other woman. My problem is I am getting older and tired of meeting the wrong kind of man I can't have. Sure I can start a life with the single man but there would always be finiace worries although I have love for him. The other man I admire and if he were ever single I would go for it like maddening. What should I do as an single woman looking for love who is not getting younger not bad looking yet overweight which I have been working hard on losing and have had weight loss but still needs more to go. What can I do at this time in my life to find happiness and not be used as I have been in my other relationships with single men and also cheated on and hurt by men?

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    ...Yes! "Sure, you are STILL WAITING FOR LOVE" :) Sorry to know abt your past relationships. If i am right, i do gather you advised someone "to bank on one of the persons and live it to fate" ---

    I honestly believe if a heart is hurt or deceived by unworthy people in life. Its hard to love again and be strong enough to trust. We all reach a time in life where we need commitment and love which has future. No plays-No games. All we need is, the one who can define Happiness and Love to whom we give our heart and soul. In your case, i feel you are better of with "single man" though i understand he might have some finance problems to deal with, you guys can work through it. Do u really wanna b doormate? i guess not! Dont split your love and confuse urself :) Coming to weight loss.. plz dont strain too much. love the way you are :) . I deeply hope you get the best person in ur life.

  • 12 years ago

    Pav,

    Thank you for responding you have given some of the best advice on here. I know I am better with single men I just can't seem to find the right one and I don't want to be anybodies door mate you are right about that and I will try to stay strong and work on the single men and hope it works out I just feel at times I am better alone a little bit longer but I have waited so long already.

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    thank u...(ur name) :)

    Hey, Listen .... I Believe "A LOVING HEART CAN NEVER BE SINGLE" ..... sorry but you don't qualify to be single! ha ha :) if u don't want to wait, then try to feel your love...it might be around you..... i guess u r not waiting for love/man i guess u r just waiting to be discovered! .... :)

  • 12 years ago

    Pav,

    Thank you once again for all your help you really make me smile and happy. I love your post you are wonderful and don't take this the wrong way but I love you man! Your outlook is an A+ thanks again.

  • Pav
    11 years ago

    Thanks again... :)

    I am happy for you too, i am glad if my advice helps you :) Tc and do keep me posted :)

  • 11 years ago

    i m in luv with one girl....nd i want 2 propose tht girl but dar lg rha h ...agar usne mana kr diya to mai tukde tukde hoke installment me bat jaungaaaaaaa......

  • 11 years ago

    Karan,

    If I understand you are in love with one girl however I am not sure what has want wrong. If you are in love then go for it please.

  • 11 years ago

    Pav,

    I want to give u my name but I am affrid that he will see it are someone will know me because of the rarity of my name. I am writing to say thank you again I have been spending more time with the single man and I really like him but I think he has someone else now too. I am not worried about that because I am leaving it on faith and if it is meant to happen with him then great if not no lost. I guess you can say I am stepping out of my shell and trying something new by facing my past failures and having a optimistic attitude which is good.

  • pav
    11 years ago

    Hey...

    Good to hear from you how you been? I appreciate your positive attitude towards love and life :)

    I really wish everything will turn up fine in your life... :)
    U can email at [email protected]

  • 11 years ago

    Pav,

    I will be in touch thanks for all your cheer and staying positive.

  • Pav
    11 years ago

    Hi
    Good to hear from u, msg cant be less then 40chr, so................................................................................................................................................................................See u there :) ha ha