How to make him come to me?

12 years ago

Well i was going with a boy , he used to cheat on me, and i forgave him because i thought he will change. But he didn't . At our school party, he told me he didn't want to come , i said i will come and he said he will come for me, when he came he didn't let me know, till i called him and he joined me. He was with me but his mind was far. He was texting . He told he won't stay with me longime because someone is waiting for him at home. I said ok. he wasn't going. Then he told me he's going to call a guy friend to come join us. I said he can, then he said he is coming right now. I waited for him like 20mins he wasn"t coming. A friend of mine saw me and asked why i was all alone , i explained and she said she just saw him with a girl. I was sad but i've seemed fine. Then we decided to go walk and we found out they were going to take a drink. He called me asking me to come with that other girl, i said i'm good. Then he came to me and i told him it was over with out explanation. He stayed there like 5 mins, he didn't move and he was calling me and i didn't answer. Then he went join the other girl and his friends. And after it , he didn't call me. This happened yesterday and till now he didn't call me. I'm wondering if i should call him asking him why he was calling me or i should wait and see? It's not his first time to hurt me even thought he tells me he really loves and care about me. I'm so confused right now. At a party too, he didn't pay attention to me. He went to take pictures with that same girl and let me there... I really love him even thought i don't show him alot it..I'm so sad..I need help Please

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  • 12 years ago

    well if you really like him try to let him know wih out telling him thats what i did and found out that he likes me too

  • 12 years ago

    What?????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

  • 12 years ago

    Hi Pav, how u doing ? All this time my internet had a problem and it stoped me getting on.And don’t be sorry for your msg, it wasn’t rude at all, it woke up me and it help me to respect myself. See
    As I said, I invited him to my house while my parents were away and he came with his bestie, I asked to talk to him and when we were lonely, he held me and tried to kiss me, I didn’t let him, he tried again and I didn’t let him and I told him bout the sms, he didn’t deny. I asked him to make his choice, he said he choose me but that he wants me to give him time bcuz he cant suddenly leave her, I said I wont rly do it bcuz I gave him a lot time, so I asked him to leave me then as he cant leave her, he said he wont leave me. We stand there like 10mins, he been looking at me like 10mins with out saying sumthing ( I ignore why he was looking at me like this). He told me dat he wanna make me his wife, saying he really want me forever..that I need to understand him , that he can lie and

  • 12 years ago

    So I called his bestie to join us and I explained to his bestie and he said we need to work things out and to talk about it. He said my bf will call me at night it was on April 8. And that night , till 11p.m he didn’t call me , so I called him to talk about it. We talked and we didn’t rly say nun interesting , he was on nerves asking me why I look at that girl phone, I explained him how it happened he didn’t listened, he said he cant understand how I can hurt myself by reading this, that I did it on purpose to hurt myself. So I dun even remember what we said but he was like he cant believe I rejected him by kissing me, that I should of tell the problem before to get lonely, he was like “ how can u just let me hold and while I want to kiss u , u comes with a msg story, u know I wanted to kiss u so bad but u didn’t let me, u should of give me just a kiss and start talking about this shit and I would understand. U rly hurt me.” I was like “ you’re unfeeling. All I’m tel

  • 12 years ago

    .” I was like “ you’re unfeeling. All I’m telling u about my pain it isn’t ur problem , ur just thinking about that missed kiss. U think ur the only hurt?, im hurt too and the missed kiss was all your fault. If u were faithful to me , u would get it with out any stupid msg story, since ur listening to ur friend ur changing to me.” He said that if he listened to his friend, he wouldn’t be with me right now becuz they asked him to leave me , that he is in a dead relation(no meet, no kiss.etc..) its not a reason for me to stop him. That I should of let him kiss me and that he just realize im not feeling a lot for him. That this kiss would have been a proof of my love for him. So I told him that to set things up in me and him relation will be the best proof of love he could give me. And we were talking about nun interesting. He didn’t say he was sorry or nun , he made it fun ( I guess bcuz he only talking about the kiss). Then he started being close to me. He used to call

  • 12 years ago

    . He used to call me monday like 11times and I didn’t answer and after I did call him , we talk very good he said he’s crazy in love with me nd all. Then I noticed he tried to run our problem. Yesterday, he called me and I wanted to talk bout it. He said he rather us to talk about it today(Wednesday) and I told him its no way , we gonna talk about it. He said he listenin to me. I told him we didn’t rly solve our story. He said I don’t like peace. That I love to just fight , argue all the time, saying its better to talk tomorrow bcuz me n him cud never talk in peace. I insist n I explained him im looking for the peace for him n me, that I want him to tell me what he rly wants from me and to show me a way to follow. He said I don’t believe all he tells to me but that he swears me he never been that honest with a girl as he is with me. He was like “ I never spend all my time with a girl as I do with u. I know u wont believe me but You and me its for life (forever). I love u M

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    He was like “ I never spend all my time with a girl as I do with u.I never been that confident with a girl before as I do with you I know u wont believe me but You and me its for life (forever). I love u Mina and I will love u. I know I do things that aint gud but I want u to ignore these things. Im not with this girl for life, ignore her plz, I asked u many time to forget about her story. I don’t want u n me to talk about her when we talk.” So I told its all gud wat he said but im in a situation, wat he wanna do. He said he rly needs time to break up with her. I asked him why he told her I love u so much, he said he told it to her to have peace bcuz she was asking it, I asked him how he loves her, he said he loves her like anybody.I asked him like how much time he needs to break up with her, he said Till holidays.

  • 12 years ago

    . So I asked him to break up. He said he doesn’t wanna break up with me, that he rly cares for me , he doesn’t wanna lose me at all. I told him he’s losing me. He said he rly loves me. I remained him all the pain he made me feel. And I said he hasn’t ever ask me apologize and i was like “ well , see Ima start bcuz this is maybe my fault bcuz I’ve been the second in this story , she was there before me,forgive me if I came and trouble ur life. It wasn’t my intention, forgive me for all these questions I asked and vexed u and forgive me for the missed kiss” . so he took speech and was like “ u don’t have to excuse urself, u didn’t ever hurt me, and for these questions, its not a problem but I have to ask u to forgive me if I hurt u , no , forgive me for hurting u becuz I hurt u a lot but I didn’t rly mean it. I tried to avoid but it happened. Forgive me Mina, I rly loves u , I don’t wanna lose u, I care for u a lot . Mina , what happened isn’t ur fault. I wan

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    (continues of his speech). Mina , what happened isn’t ur fault. I wanted u, I want u and I will want u in my life. Yur not no second. I just want u. forgive me bcuz sumtimes I do things without thinking but I thought a lot when I started flirting with u” . I was like “ I wanna forgive u but I have a condition, promise me and swear me u will never say I love u to her.” He took 3mins, and he said “ I promise u”, I repeated it again, and he said he promises me. Then 5mins of silence, and I tried to play on his feeling. I told him he is hurting me so bad and right now im crying. He was like “ Mina I love u, forgive me, I know sometimes I get mad at u nd u think I don’t love u but its not that. When I get mad at u , its cuz I want u to know me , to know what I like and dislike. And in Love, we cant be always happy, sometimes theres up and down. And its cuz I love u that I get mad sometime at u but it doesn’t mean I don’t love u.

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    (continue of his speech) and u say im running away from u, I swear if u were free to go out like I do without ur parents worrying, I swear I will even give u time to breath, I will be always with u, everytime ,I could be able to show u how much I love u, and u think too all I want is to take profit of u and leave u, NO, Mina, im never going to do it with u.” I stayed quiet. He was like “ Mina, I love u, one more time, forgive me”. I told him I forgive him and I’m giving him 1month to break up with her and after that 1month I noticed nothing change, I promise him I will leave the game without explanation. ( he didn’t sound happy that time), and he said “ thanks for forgiving me ,and I will TRY in a month to break up with her. And I will do my best for not disappointing u” I said thanks.

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    And yesterday(4a.m), till now (0:05a.m), he just msged me “ Gud night baby, te-amo, and I texted “ I though u forgot me , te amo too. But Im scared he takes me for easy and hurt me,even I wanna show him my love so bad... Btw Pav, i think I wanna see his potential…that’s why I gave him that time and becuz I heard today from my daddy that at holiday , I will go end my studies in Canada, which I didn’t say to Yann (my bf) yet, and im not going to do it now.I’m happy bcuz I could forget him, right now I’m afraid to feel lonely without him that I’m keeping him. But honestly, I rly want u to listen to me even I know I don’t listen to u when u tell me to let him go. Forgive me… but I like it when u listen to me, it confort me a lot. What you think about my decision? What new attitude you can advice me to take? I wanna show him I love him and at time, to live happy with him… without he hurts me… Well , i need more attention from him but he aint giving it yet..

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Hi,

    How you going?...May i say that was one big..long...typing you did! :)

    Mina, I must appreciate you for handling the situation so maturely, having him not kiss you and focusing on ur feelings and letting him know your hurt/problem and discussing with him to make a clear point that you are not a play toy. Its very good that you asked him abt the msg, and letting him know u r not blind! is awesome Mina, keep it up!

    Now, if i were you i would have only given him a week time! but, its ur call, so its ok. By the way u r moving to Canada? so, will it be a long distance relationship? its not good if this happens.

    Mina i have a single question for you... i can see your hard work n feelings involved making this relationship work. ALL i ask is, Is this worthy? You once said ur parents are very strict. so, will they agree you guys to be together?...ACTUALLY ARE YOU SURE ABT THIS GUY, DO U SEE A BRIGHT FUTURE WITH HIM? or will u be fighting for love whole ur life?

    THINK

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Conti....
    will u be fighting for love whole ur life?**

    THINK 1000times abt this...ok

    End of the day, if u have time plz take it slow, build ur career, take time to make life decisions. My personal feeling is , you will be a lot better-off with out this guy.I think, u must make sure ur parents will agree to accept ur bf...( or atleast if u are confident abt ur bf yourself then u can make them agree)

    Mina, u r doing well...keep it up.** Talk through things n solve them it will always help you in life. ** Never fight or get angry for no reason n never hurt urself or anyone physically. (if someone dont wanna talk to u abt some issue then leave them alone! :) )

    YOUR new attitude: Dont stress lot on this issue be calm , give time. Dont worry toomuch abt his msgs..or not answering the calls....etc..." Be kool and **always always always concentrate on ur career" **

    Your attitude towards love: **"Dont swim deep in the love, tha

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Conti...

    Your attitude towards love: "Dont swim deep in the love, that u cant come up!...Swim on surface, u can always reach to safety

    Take it easy Mina...n take care! :)

  • 12 years ago

    Pav, ur da only one not callin me idiot,thnks n im goin 2 take things easy n stop thinkin abt wat they do together. The answer to ur question is ' im not dreaming abt doin my life with him even i love him a lil bit more than wat he deserves but never say never' thats why i liked this idea 2 go 2 canada. i wont hav long distance relationship with him bcuz ill stop all before goin. as u said, finish the stress . but theres a problem, dat girl aint stop being wicked 2 me, and provocation. she sit 2 her spot n keep lookin at me neglected way. she try 2 talk 2 me or joke wit me but its not honest,so i avoid her talk.i dunno why im still dere in this situation bcuz its shameful. now i wanna ask sumthing, do u think this 1month is to much? do u think i should come bac on wat i said and give him 1week? or do u think with sum attitude i could make him break up wit her in 1week? and my last question: do u think i should stay kool with him and answers his calls n reply his msgs without changing t

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